Defending yourself is tough - so tough. But there is something so beautiful, so liberating, so empowering when you quit defending. It’s a moment when everything changes. Suddenly, you don’t have to pretend that everything is alright; that you’re perfect; that you did a good job; that you never made mistakes or that you never will again. And when that happens, you open up a whole new world of possibilities, and a lot less pain.
The fear is 'people will say …’
Read MoreYou might be surprised to learn that many people attending the workshops I give genuinely don’t know where their passions lie. In other words; they don’t know what they like. Isn’t that strange?
No - totally normal in my opinion.
Read MoreLearning new skills is a challenge for many of us. The very first hurdle is our belief system: fixed mindset or growth mindset. If we have a fixed mindset, it suggests that we cannot learn new skills and have to make do with what we have naturally. On the other hand, there is a lot more room for hope if we have a growth mindset - this suggests that we believe skills can be learnt and we can learn them.
The second challenge is creating habits that make learning a consistent practice.
Read MoreNB *I am not qualified, nor am I authorised to give financial advice.*
Almost everyone is concerned with money at some stage of their career. However, there’s no point working harder, taking on more responsibility and earning more if you don’t actually feel the benefit of it at any stage. By the way, I’m not merely talking about getting richer, I’m talking about increasing your net worth and sustaining it into the future. Before I go any further, I have to mention that of course not everyone wants to be wealthy, which is fine, but everyone wants to be financially stable.
Read MoreI'm delighted. We are of the same mindset. You want to be a coach and you'd like to see how others are doing it. Welcome to my site. Please check my about page for more info on my background. After that, I think it's a good idea to see the reading list of someone who's doing what you'd like to do. One quote that I remember vividly from Tony Robbins' book AWAKEN THE GIANT WITHIN is:
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Can you improve? Can you become more intelligent? Both of the those questions will most likely be answered by your belief system. Therefore, you may have answered either ‘yes’, ‘no’ or ‘maybe’. However, they should be only answered with the facts - and the answer would be ‘yes’. The problem is that many of us have a belief about the way our intelligence is or the way it will always be.
Read MorePlato was a clever guy, a philosopher and mathematician in Classical Greece, and the founder of the first academy in Athens, the first centre of higher education in the West. His teacher was Socrates and his most famous student was Aristotle. Although Plato is long gone, and despite science having progressed so much since his lifetime, some of his lessons are still unavoidably true and relevant to modern life.
Read MoreWhen much of our time is spent deciding between two different sets of options which seem equally good or bad, it can seem like a dilemma. However, it's important to remember that dilemmas are not a frequent as they may seem.
Read MoreWould you steal a loaf of bread to feed your starving family? You probably would. Why? People often break their values to meet their needs. But what are these needs? The following paradigm is very useful for identifying what motivates us to do what we do. We are motivated to meet one or more of our 6 human needs at any one time. So what are they?
Read MoreI’ve been on radio 4 times now, which is a lot for me as I had never done anything like that before. Initially I thought it was going to be a nerve-wrecking experience, but it was absolutely fine. And I believe the reason for that comes down to my preparation. There are a couple I things that I try to do before radio interviews that are relevant for any type of interview or important meeting. Here they are:
Read MoreIn order to bring our society closer together, I feel that we must emphasise, through this education, the vast commonalities in beliefs, values and ethics that these religions share, as too much time and energy has been spent identifying differences, which we now know, often only lead to unnecessary conflict between neighbours. If you want to create ill-feelings, emphasise differences. If you want to create fondness, emphasise similarities.
“Familiarity breeds liking”
- Robert Zajonc, Social Psychologist
Simple? Yes, very simple. Easy? Not necessarily. How many times will you ask yourself bad questions on any given day and get bad answers? We’ve all done it. This is something simple that we can consciously change just by becoming aware of it and having better options available to us.
Read MoreSome people don’t like their jobs and want to change careers. Others don’t like their jobs because there’s too much stress at work. If you’re in the second category, then making sure that you have active recovery periods every week is key. It can be a waste of time and energy changing jobs to avoid something like stress - because you could just walk into the next job and have even more stress there. In that case, you haven’t really solved the problem, you’ve just changed the location of where it happens.
Read MoreIn 2011, Nobel Prize Winner Daniel Kahneman released his book "Thinking Fast and Slow" which summarises research that he conducted over decades, often in collaboration with his colleague Amos Tversky. The book was an absolute game-changer as far as I am concerned. Kahneman successfully outlined and defined many common thinking errors which we all make from time to time. Being able to successful identify and avoid these errors will help us we make better choices in our personal and professional lives. That is the aim of this blog post.
Read MoreIt can be difficult to stay motivated all of the time, particularly if you’re not getting enough support. With that in mind, this week’s blog post is about keeping your enthusiasm up by surrounding yourself with inspiring people who are also striving to achieve a goal. This doesn’t mean that you can’t see certain people if they don’t have any goals, it’s just that you decide not to spend the majority of your time with them.
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